This harness is more comfortable than it looks! I was expecting some movement, but it stayed put and I didn't have to make it too tight for it to stay put! This was a completely new thing for me! I was completely shocked that my boyfriend asked for me to get one to use on him for a "prostate massage"! I was down for it once the sales associate told me that I can tell him to bend over and take it for once! I cracked up laughing in the middle of the store and pulled out my credit card! I like that it is versatile with the different sizes of toys...like wide, skinny, with and without the sack and when you wear a vibrating toy the vibration moves through the entire harness which teases me just a bit! The sales associate did mention to not undo all the straps or it will take hours to get them back on right. She suggested that you just loosen the straps just enough to slip your legs in. I tried it this way and it was an easy slip on and off process!