It’s pretty easy to know whether or not you’re an adventurous person who will jump onto a rollercoaster without signing a will and saying your last goodbyes. It’s also fairly easy to know if you’re an adventurous eater. You know, a person who braves the eats like Andrew Zimmerman. The adventure line blurs right around where sex surfaces. This makes sense because sex can be very complicating. In other words, it can be difficult to determine whether you’re daring or demure, in the sack.
According to sex therapist, Ian Kerner, there are two types of people when it comes to sex: comfort creatures and thrill seekers. Comfort creatures like to keep sex in the confines of their homes, with one partner, and tend to stick to a few trusted positions. Thrill seekers, clearly, are the opposite. They get off on trying new positions, in new locations, and spicing things up with sex toys and different partners. In a perfect world, a couple of comfort creatures or thrill seekers would be together – all of the time – because they would be on the same sexual wave length. But, as we all know, we don’t live in a perfect world. So, how does it work when a thrill seeker and comfort creature want to hook-up?
Understandably, this is a common issue as most people don’t discover they’re mismatched until further into the relationship. Kerner attributes this to “infatuation hormones,” which mask any incompatibility there may be between the sheets. In other words, you’re so busy getting it on you don’t notice you’re into S&M and he’s into spooning until the infatuation begins to fade. Which is where the trouble starts, and when you might look at your partner and think: Cuddling, again, really?
By no means do these different sexual types have to be a deal-breaker, though. After all, the brain is the utmost sexual organ. So express yourself with it and all will be good…with a little compromise.
